I have a close friend whose has a mentor is in his 70’s. His friend has concern for the condition of marriage in this day and age, especially within the Christian community.
So he posed the following questions and comments to my buddy:
Have you told your wife that you love her with both words and actions? We all know words are important, but actions convey love better than words.
Have you listened to your wife — without interruption?
Have you listened to what she is interested in and not been judgemental?
Have you listened to her and allowed her to initiate conversation about a topic she wants to talk about, answering only when asked to answer a question?
When you answer, are you authentic or did your answer sound like a Billy Graham sermon?
Does your wife know that she is more important to you than your business?
Have you proved to her that she is more important than your business?
My friend, 10 years from today there will be ample opportunities in business, 10 years from today she might be gone.
He then asks my friend “Are you listening?”
I am grateful that my buddy has friends who love him enough to ask the hard questions. No “softballs” here.
Men, how would you answer these questions? Are you listening?